Why No One Else Can Walk Your Path for You

“Stop asking people for directions to a place they’ve never been”. 

Another mind-blowing statement I heard recently. And I love it.

I will be the first to admit that I often seek opinions, advice, and input from other people. Am I trying to learn something new, or do I reach out because I don’t trust my instinct or judgement?

This is something I’m working on, trusting my instinct is about core beliefs (and so much more!), but that’s a different topic for another day!

That statement, however, really rings true for me.

How could someone else possibly give me advice about something that I see from my unique vantage point?

How would someone else resonate completely with how I would feel, react, or respond to something when they haven’t lived my life, made my choices, stumbled and succeeded in the same way that I have?

I know that I asked the question, and I appreciate all of the advice, every single time. Getting advice, perspective, and insight is always a great strategy when I’m feeling stuck.

What I hope to remind myself of is to filter the information through my database of experiences, understand which pieces of the advice work for me, and how I can apply them while staying true to how I want to show up in the world.

When we constantly look outside of ourselves for answers, it’s often a sign of deeper patterns rooted in early experiences, like how we were taught (or not taught) to trust our own inner voice.

In my educational consultations, we explore how those patterns were formed and how to start shifting them, so that self-trust doesn’t feel so foreign, and your instincts begin to feel like a safe place to land.

If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself or filtering every decision through someone else’s lens, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out on your own either.

Book a consultation to discover how we can collaborate to help you feel more confident in your own direction.

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