Life Transitions: Still Going Through It

My daughter is moving out in a couple of days. Yes, it’s just downtown, but she won’t be sitting in her room anymore or hanging out in the kitchen or the living room. She will be physically leaving, and I’m feeling lost.

I’m not sure what my new role is. I think it’s the “not doing” that I have to get used to.

We’ve had so many transitions in our lives lately, and I can’t seem to get my brain around it all. My daughter is moving out, my son is moving to Toronto for university, and it will be just my youngest and me at home. Am I thrilled to have this time with the youngest? Absolutely and unequivocally. But I’m feeling lost. It’s exactly how it’s supposed to happen, but it feels sudden.

Is my menopausal brain messing with me?

Or am I just uncomfortable with all of this unpredictability?

I’m used to change, you have to be when you have kids. I think I need to just hunker down and weather this storm. But do I have to like it?

I really hope I’m going to find something that is soul-fulfilling on the other side… really soon.

Here’s the thing I remind my clients of all the time…and now I’m reminding myself:

Sometimes the hardest life transitions are the ones we can’t plan for.

The identity shifts. The letting go of things that once defined us. The quieting of the “doing” and sitting in the stillness of being.

This is where the real work begins, not the work of pushing through, but the work of remembering who you are when everything around you changes.

In my coaching, we talk a lot about going back to the root. Not to fix anything, but to understand the patterns we carry, the stories we’ve told ourselves, and the identities we’ve outgrown.

Because when life changes, so do we.

Click here if you're interested in learning more!